Still questioning if it's abuse
You know something feels wrong, but you still keep talking yourself out of what you felt.
Who This Is For
If you are somewhere between doubt and clarity, this was made with that in mind.
Currently in the relationship
You do not need to be ready to leave. You may simply need language for what is happening.
Recently left, rebuilding
You are out, but your head still feels tangled. Clarity can still take time after leaving.
Untangling family-of-origin patterns
You learned early how to override your instincts, and now you are trying to trust them again.
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Spot the Pattern
Every type of narcissist, named and explained — so you stop wondering if it's you.
A plain-language field guide to every type of narcissist — how each one operates, what their tactics look like in real life, and how to recognise the one you're dealing with.
Read it in 20 minutes. Keep coming back to it whenever the doubt starts again.
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When You're Ready for More — Books, Workbooks and the Community
Healing in the Dark
My story. A lifetime of narcissistic abuse — from childhood to adulthood — written for the woman who needs to know she isn't alone, and that surviving it doesn't make her broken.
GBP 7.99
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I Thought It Was Normal — Until I Looked Back
The workbook that walks you through the four stages of waking up — when you still think it's you, the moment you realise it isn't, how to spot it for what it really is, and how to begin to leave. Written by someone who lived through narcissistic abuse twice — once with a parent, once with a partner. Real-life examples. Pattern names. Short exercises that put your own life into your own words. By the last page: you stop blaming yourself. You see the pattern. And you know what comes next.
GBP 17
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When You Know But Can't Leave — The Quiet Exit Plan
For the woman who can see it clearly — but still can't move. Eight sections that solve the specific problems keeping her stuck: why she hasn't left (and why that isn't weakness), what she's been allowing without realising, the "one day they'll change" hope, the conversations that keep her trapped in circles, and the full preparation checklist for finances, documents, safety, and the people she can quietly reach. Plus the actual things to say — and stop saying. Written by someone who lived it and got out. By the last page: she has language for the trap, a real exit plan, and the next small step she can take today — quietly, privately, on her own timing.
GBP 27
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Breaking Free For Good
The full ten-module programme. A private community. Audio, downloadable workbooks, and the deeper work. Read the full programme below.
GBP 147
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Breaking Free For Good
The full programme. A private community plus a guided four-step course for women rebuilding after narcissistic abuse — at your own pace, alongside women who get it.
Step One
See It For What It Is
Name the patterns you have been living in. Stop dismissing your gut. Understand what was happening — in plain language, no clinical labels.
Step Two
Leave
The mental, emotional, and practical steps to prepare your exit safely. For when you know you need to go but do not yet know how.
Step Three
Heal
Process the years. Re-regulate your nervous system. Re-meet the woman you were before this happened to you. Without rushing.
Step Four
Rebuild Your Life For You
Decide what your life looks like from here. Choose work, friendships, home, and love on your own terms. This is the part most recovery work skips.
The Curriculum
Ten modules. The full arc — from confusion to clarity, from survival to freedom.
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Module 1
Detachment
The first real step.
You'll learn: why you stayed, and how to begin leaving without breaking yourself.
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Module 2
Planning Your Exit
Leaving is a process, not a moment.
You'll learn: how to gather your documents, sort your money, and leave safely on your own terms.
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Module 3
Seeing It Clearly
Knowledge removes the fog.
You'll learn: every type of narcissist, every pattern, every tactic — so you stop second-guessing yourself.
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Module 3 — Parent Track
When the Abuser is a Parent
The hardest goodbye.
You'll learn: how a childhood with a narcissistic parent shaped the patterns you carry now — and how to put them down.
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Module 4
Rebuilding Your Identity
Finding yourself in the mess.
You'll learn: who you are when you're not defined by his version of you.
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Module 5
Boundaries
Protecting your peace.
You'll learn: how to say no without guilt, and how to hold the line when he pushes back.
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Module 6
Safe Love
Relationships that nourish, not destroy.
You'll learn: what healthy love feels like in your nervous system — and how to recognise it when it arrives.
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Module 7
Thriving
You didn't come this far to live a half-life.
You'll learn: how to deliberately choose the work, the home, the friendships, the joy you actually want.
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Module 8
Ties That Bind
Trauma bonds, named and broken.
You'll learn: why you keep going back — and the cold-turkey no contact protocol that finally breaks it.
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Module 9
If I Can
From survival to possibility.
You'll learn: how to stop apologising for surviving and start building the life that's now yours.
What you'll actually learn how to do
Three things every woman leaving narcissistic abuse needs — spelled out, step by step.
Emotionally check out while you're still living with him
The detachment work that keeps you safe inside the relationship while you prepare to leave. How to stop the supply without him noticing. How to hold yourself together when you can't get out yet.
Sort your finances so you can actually leave
The money side nobody talks about. How to open an account he can't see. How to start moving money safely. How to plan financially so leaving isn't the moment everything falls apart.
Do cold turkey no contact — and stay there
Why "just stop talking to him" doesn't work. How to break the trauma bond without breaking yourself. The exact steps to no contact, and what to do when he tries to pull you back.
And alongside the modules, you get
- For the 3am moments — a private companion trained on Jane. A guide built from every module, the book, and Jane's own voice. Always there, even when the community is asleep. Anonymous. Never judgmental. For the nights you need someone now.
- Audio on every module — no reading required. Listen on the school run, in bed, on a walk. Some weeks you won't have the bandwidth to read; the audio is there for those weeks.
- Downloadable workbooks, scripts, and templates for every module — practical tools you can actually use, not theory.
- A private Skool community of women in every stage — questioning, leaving, healing, rebuilding. You stop being the only one.
- Anonymous participation — your real name is never shown publicly unless you choose to share it.
- Lifetime access to all modules and future updates as the programme grows.
- The same calm, plain-language style as the workbooks — no clinical jargon, no pressure, no rushing.
This is for you if
- You have read the workbooks and you want the deeper work
- You are done trying to figure this out alone in the middle of the night
- You want a place where everyone already speaks your language
- You are ready to be witnessed by women who understand — not explained to by people who don't
£147 — one-time, lifetime access
Join the Community →A private Skool community. Your real name is never shown publicly unless you choose to share it.
About Jane
About Jane
I grew up with narcissistic abuse in the family, and later repeated the pattern in adulthood before I had the words for it. I know what it is to minimise it, explain it badly, and keep trying to be the version of yourself that finally stops the harm.
Breaking Free For Good exists because I do not want women losing years to that fog. I wanted to build something calm, truthful, and emotionally safe while still being clear about the pattern.
Read my full story →Testimonials
What women have said after finally seeing it more clearly
"I've read everything I could find about this. This was the first time I actually felt like someone understood what it's like to live inside it - not just study it."
Rachel M.
"I kept thinking I was overreacting. This guide named the exact patterns I'd been living with for 11 years. It took me 20 minutes to read. It changed how I understood my whole marriage."
Jen T.
"The way this is written - it doesn't make me feel broken. It makes me feel like I finally see what happened. That's more than therapy gave me in two years."
Sarah K.